7 Truths Why You Can Not Be Happy

7 Truths 

Why You Can Not 

Be Happy

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Happiness is something that is in our hands, it is an attitude towards life, a daily decision.

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By Roberto R. Diaz Blanco 

We often wonder what makes happy people different from unhappy people. While there are people who, before or after difficult circumstances, have the ability to go through these processes and continue to be motivated and happy people, others, when a painful situation occurs, remain remembering it and suffering for years.

In this post we will reveal 7 Truths Why You Can Not Be Happy:

1. Obsession.

People who obsess over little things every day: what they have to do, what their partner told them, what happened yesterday with a partner, their weight, their image... they lose the possibility of enjoying the present. By constantly remembering something that worries them, they are presenting the situation, suffering again, for something that has already happened or has not happened yet.

In general, they are people with a high degree of demand, with low self-esteem or insecurities that do not let them trust in the process of life and let go.

2. Fear.

It is the most important saboteur of our lives because it makes us live with anxiety, new challenges and adventures making them uncomfortable instead of stimulating, and, on many occasions, this fear is such that it makes us avoid or postpone things that could fill us with love and happiness.

Fear does not let us move towards a better job or a better relationship because it fills our minds with doubts, possible problems and keeps us trapped in what is known, whether good or bad.

3. Dissatisfaction 

Seeing the glass always half-empty forces people to look at what they do not have instead of being grateful and enjoying what they do have.

This creates a permanent dissatisfaction, which means that the things that arrive never live up to their expectations. The way to get out of this state is to learn a new habit, to feel gratitude for the good that comes to us, even if it is not everything we wanted, letting go of prejudices about how it should be, to make way for what is.

4. The complaining and negative attitude of life and circumstances.

These are the so-called "toxic people", because they complain about everything, something always happens to them, it hurts here and there, they complain about the weather, whatever it is, about their boss, colleagues, partner, about what they do and don't do, they always find fault with everything, they tend to see the difficulties and problems instead of looking at the possibilities and solutions, they remain trapped in past situations that did not go well for them, maintaining an excuse to have something to complain about or with which justify their fatalistic and negative way of seeing life.

Anyone can spend a season feeling this way because of something that has happened to us or due to repeated setbacks, anyone can get into the habit of staying stuck in this negativity and in order not to do so, we need to be aware of ourselves so as not to repeat or maintain this attitude that makes any person away because it generates a very dense and exhausting energy.

These people need to relearn, to think positive and make an effort to choose to be happy and not complain until it becomes their new habit.

5. Negative emotions such as resentment and guilt.

Throughout life it is inevitable that someone disappoints us or hurts us consciously or unconsciously.

But it depends on oneself the time and the way we choose that this fact keeps us vibrating in resentment and wounded, while we remain hurt we suffer for something that can no longer be changed and that no longer exists, it is a way in which we abandon ourselves to give more importance to the errors and mistakes of another.

The way out of this is to heal the pain by loving ourselves to allow ourselves happiness again. The same thing happens when we are the ones who make mistakes, beating ourselves up eternally for something we did not do well will not make it better, and punishing ourselves will not compensate for the damage done, it only serves to learn from what happened and let go to feel centered and happy not to repeat the mistake again.

But if we don't, guilt becomes very destructive because we don't feel worthy of happiness and we spoil it unconsciously.

6. The disconnection of love.

This is what keeps us the furthest from happiness, because the moment I close my heart I stop loving life in all its forms. I stop enjoying people, what I do, and I feel a great inner emptiness that I don't; it can be filled with anything that comes from outside.

This emptiness is this lack of love for me, which needs to be filled with attention and self-care, rediscovering one's own light, the path that motivates one; what one can contribute to the world; what one enjoys and has forgotten and disregarded.

Unwanted loneliness also produces great sadness, that in which the person cannot relate to others, in which they cannot give or receive affection; it may be because they do not have relatives, a partner, or friends with whom to share.

Because even though one can love oneself and give oneself affection, it has been shown that human beings need the affection of others to be happy.

7. The lack of meaning in life.

Many people feel lost and frustrated because they don't know what they want to do with their life, what direction to take or what they like and really fulfills them, which makes them live without motivation. It is usually very typical in adolescence but it can happen at any age or around forty when you see that you have spent a good part of your life working on something you do not want or wasting time, and you realize that you need to find a new direction that gives meaning to your life.

Final Words.

We think that we all have a powerful potential for improvement and that we should stop using words, such as "always", "never", "everything", "nothing", since they do us little favor by the simple fact that we close ourselves to a world of possibilities.

And be very careful with your mobile. Not because its use is bad, but because we use it as an anesthetic in the face of problems that arise. Sometimes, when faced with something unpleasant like sadness or frustration, we take refuge in the phone.

We must make an effort to feel better, draw up coping strategies, and accept that the main enemies of happiness can be ourselves.